Gayle Reeves' Blog

Taking a Moment to Care

Gayle A. Reeves - Tuesday, December 30, 2014

           As we are in the midst of the holiday season and looking forward to a new year we sometimes forget to be patient and lend a hand, especially when we are in a hurry.  Because of my Elder Law practice, I work with many senior citizens and their families each year.  I recognize that these individuals face many challenges each and every day.  My goal is to help relieve the stress and allow families to return to their loving relationships instead of the battleground that develops between parent and child.  What I have discovered is that the simplest act of kindness can make a difference in a person’s life.

            My New Year’s resolution, as it has been for the past years, is to take an opportunity each and every day to commit an act of kindness.  These acts are very simple, but it takes recognizing a situation and acting on it.  Is the man in line ahead of you having trouble getting his groceries out of his cart?  Instead of fuming about how slow he is, why not offer to help.  I have never had anyone refuse my offer.  Instead of wondering how the woman with the cane will get her tray to a table at a fast food restaurant, offer to carry it for her.  Want something even easier to do?  Smile.  I have discovered that simply smiling at someone prompts the person to smile back at you.  The result?  You have made a positive change in a person’s life, even if just for a moment.  Nothing makes me feel better than to make someone smile, or better yet to share a laugh with them.

            As we enter 2015 I will once again strive to do my best to help my clients plan for their futures and solve their problems.  My goal will be to relieve some of the burden and stress in their lives, which will allow them to return to a happier state of mind.  I recently spoke with a young woman who told me that it was not until her father moved into assisted living that she realized it had been several years since they had spent any time together as father and daughter.  Dad was struggling to maintain his independence, while depending on his daughter for more and more things.  Daughter was always worried about Dad’s safety and worn out from juggling Dad’s needs with her job and her family.  The first time they sat down and watched a football game together after Dad’s move reminded both of them how much they really enjoyed each other’s company.  She thanked me for assisting them in the decision making and planning process to make the move a reality.  And that my friends, is why I do what I do.